tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2382184804747180588.post1034213466190920292..comments2024-03-27T09:04:12.454-07:00Comments on Baring the Aegis: It's a dirty trick, this growing oldElani Temperancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05611003885755154591noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2382184804747180588.post-29172196511512204012012-08-02T20:22:17.098-07:002012-08-02T20:22:17.098-07:00One of my grandmothers passed away when I was twel...One of my grandmothers passed away when I was twelve; she had had some recent health problems, but was still doing mostly all right, and she was still sharp as a tack. All of a sudden she had a heart attack, and she was dead by midnight. I had one opportunity to see her in the hospital as she had come to briefly, but I did not take it. I knew that she was already gone, and we were just waiting the hours until it happened; I think she was, too.<br /><br />My other grandmother passed away around the beginning of 2007, but it took until the winter of 2008 before she died. Her mind was under attack from COPD's oxygen deprivation, from a bad anaesthesia procedure where they lost oxygen to her for a minute, from strong medications she was on to combat her body's failings. I saw her a few more times after she started to go, but, again, I avoided as much as I could. It was especially hard because I had started transitioning around then, and she could never remember that I had come out; apparently she kept confusing me with my older brother or with my cousin Clarke. She finally died in the nursing home my mother had been forced to sign her into - she couldn't be trusted at home, any home.<br /><br />I think that Grammin (the first) had an easier go of it, really.<br />My father insists that he doesn't want to live past 75. He's 56 now, and the idea of such a set time limit drives me to wits' end sometimes. He has so many stories, so much love and wisdom. I don't want the world to lose out on that.<br /><br />I don't know. I don't care about myself that much, but I care desperately about other people. I don't want them to go, to the point where I will barely come to see them off when they must. "Be sensible at others' deaths" would make another good maxim, I think...Memory Walkerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12912400934007349604noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2382184804747180588.post-49511162961967623532012-08-02T05:57:42.064-07:002012-08-02T05:57:42.064-07:00Thank you for your kind words, Rhy. It's hard,...Thank you for your kind words, Rhy. It's hard, harder than I expected it to be. I think it's mostly because the change was so sudden. <br /><br />I'm sorry you had to go though this and will go through this again in a little while. It's rough. Strength to you!<br /><br />-hug-Mayra Rientieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06481963487207416546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2382184804747180588.post-21326106661865787582012-08-02T04:34:01.831-07:002012-08-02T04:34:01.831-07:00I've been through the same things with my own ...I've been through the same things with my own grandparents, and in a few more years, my parents<br /><br />This is a tough thing to go through, but also a time for lessons to be learned<br /><br />I feel for you and send warm wishes your way<br /><br />::hugs::<br />(TC: Rhyshadow)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com